Sticky

A friend at work has been having some trouble with another coworker and has been seeking direction from me. The coworker that we know is rude, can and does appear to be consistently on the attack and prone to negative verbalizations at a pretty consistent clip. My friend said, "They are so obnoxious, I don't understand how you manage to deal with them and not get angry over the stuff that they do." I replied, sometimes I do get frustrated or angry, but I "don't let it stick."

Sometimes we can feel like our person-hood is being slighted or attacked (an often this is true). But I have to make the mental decision as to whether or not I'm going to allow that to stick and distract my attention. If we become attached and overly distracted by the inappropriate behavior of others, we begin to separate ourselves from this very moment. I sometimes think the result is that we become spiritually and mentally ill, if we feel consistently attacked, pushed, shoved or treated inappropriately.

The key to not getting stuck is understanding that what people may do to us, is not our property. That crappy, negative behavior belongs to them. Because of that, I usually decide not to carry it. I release it as I exhale my breath and let it go. I also attempt to remember that by holding on to the memory of the negative acts of others in a personal way does not profit me, but costs me my connect to this moment. Please keep in mind, I'm not saying "be a door-mat," but I am saying is decide not to get "stuck" in other peoples crap. It belongs to them, not you. Decide not to pick-pocket their negativity.

May Your Life Go Well,

Jaye Morris, Curator
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