Often when we use the word "
amends," it's easy to have the notion of saying that we are "
sorry" from something that we've done. In my experience that really misses the mark. As I've learned it, amends means to have a change in behavior or to take some other course of action.
When something goes wrong or there is turbulence in our relationships, it can be very easy to say that we are sorry, but not behave like we are. That's really important to all of us, given that we are all interconnected, in some way shape or form. Daily I think about amends (changes) that I could make which might make any of my interpersonal relationships better (not only with people but my environment as well). But that means that I have to examine and look at myself as objectively as possible. I have to stop pointing at the other guy and checkout my side of the street. In doing this, I like to think that for that day, I might make a one percent improvement in my life.
If I make a one percent gain with myself every day, then at the end of the year, I have the opportunity to make a 365% difference in not only my life, but the life of others. That's better than fighting to hold on to attitudes and behaviors that can be dysfunctional, ineffective and inefficient for myself and others that I encounter.
You too might work for the "one percent solution" every day. It's easier to make small changes, day by day, rather than those big giant quantum leap ones which we may find it hard to stick with.
Namaste'
Jaye Morris, Curator
digitalZENDO
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