That we can be forgiven

I got a call on Saturday from a friend. He shared about someone that he was close to that had broken his trust. He told me that this other person had come to a realization about what they had done and wanted to "set things straight." He told me, "I am willing to forgive them, but I can't trust them ever again."

I told them, "if there is no window of opportunity for earning back your trust, then that is not forgiveness that's holding a grudge." I then asked him, "haven't you ever done something really wrong in the past but later came to your senses, made an amends and expected that you could re-earn trust?" He responded "of course." I then asked, "what does it cost you not to give them the same opportunity?" He told me, "I didn't think about it from that angle, I'm going to have to give that some thought. It just never occurred to me."

Forgiveness is forgiveness. I define it as "a process of excusing a mistake or offense mentally, emotionally and spiritually." As my mom once said, "people have to be allowed to live there past down, otherwise is a world incapable of extending and embracing hope." I agree strongly with this, not because it's something that my mom taught me, but rather because it's something that I know to be true, based on my life experience.

Namaste'

Jaye Morris, Curator
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