I can appreciate that

Being in relationships with people, it's very easy to get distracted and forget why we started associating with a person in the first place. It's usually at that point that we (might) start taking them for granted and lose an appreciate for who they and we are. Once we are taking them for granting, there is a "side-effect" which is placing gaps and fissures in the relationship.

I have a personal policy of recalling or noticing something about people in my life. This helps to keep up my appreciation level for them and keeps me in sync with them. Some examples at home is the fact that my wife "has my back." When I want to do something, she's not sitting there throwing out arguments about why we should do it, she's helping work out methods that we can bring my dreams (delusions-lol) to fruition. My oldest daughter was having some trouble in math but has been putting her head to the challenge and is doing well. I really admire her drive. When I was a kid, I was jello, when it came to that stuff. My youngest daughter will sometimes pull me to my knee, give me a hug and say, "I love you daddy."

At work I appreciate several people, mostly because they are so skilled at deescalating patients thing seems to being going right. I appreciate that the doctors are down-to-earth and get a long well with the staff and patients. I appreciate that my CEO loves to talk about the latest audio-book that he has read and it's usually something in the vein of Stephen King and NOT "How to be a better manager."

Those moments mean something and help me maintain contact and keep me grounded with others. I find it is the ability to find a point of appreciation with others that helps me to stay on a reasonably even keel with them. Try it out and see what happens. You just might start treating them and yourself differently.

Happiness,

Jaye Morris, Curator
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